I agree with the above. I'm sure your husband is stressed also. My husband says stupid things in the heat of the moment too. I hope you two find a calm moment to talk about it, I'm sure it can be worked out. I thought about outpatient too, but, just not feeling it right now. I have cutting thoughts too, and, I think of how pissed my husband would get, and that stops me, so far. Wishing you sleep and peace
kj