hi blossom......i have to agree with what lidia said. i have gone from denial to acceptance many times too. the only suggestions i might add are...... dialogue writing particularly asking your system if anyone has anything to say and then letting them write.you can ask them questions after they write first, like who are you? etc....................and...if you hear a little voice asking you to buy something for them (a small thing hopefully ) buy it....that has gone a long way for my littles feeling understood...my teens too!............................................good luck in your journey....kasva