I think abuse affects EVERYONE differently. You felt a strong sense of protectiveness for others. that is certainly commendable.

I think your sister is possibly damaged in a different way than you(not more or less-- just different).... her mind is hers and yours is yours. The dynamics of her abuse was different than yours and since her mind is her own, it might not work in the same way at coping as yours does.

anyway-- I hope you can get the info from your children as to whether they were harmed or not.

I'm sorry for all your family's suffering.

fins