A lot of young girls want babies because they want someone to love them and fill the empty space inside. They feel like if they are needed that they will have value as a person. This comes from low self esteem and also from feeling unloved and unlovable. I'm not sure if this is where you feel you are at but I know this was why my sister got pregnant at 17.

As the 26 year old mother of a soon to be 2 year old I just want to let you know that yes, having a baby is a beautiful, wonderful, and amazing thing, but it also changes your life FOREVER. It means that you are no longer the most important person in your life. Everything you need, want, feel has to come second to meeting your child's needs.

You are exhausted and need sleep? Too bad, your newborn needs to eat every 2 hours and will take up to 45 minutes to finish their meal.

You need to run some errands and go grocery shopping? Your toddler decides they don't want to be stuck in the cart and starts screaming at the top of your lungs while everyone stares at you.

You want to dress up cute and put your baby in a nice outfit? This is your baby's cue to have an enormous blowout with poop all over their back, hair, and you!

Getting the picture?

There are good parts to parenting but it is HARD. Your little one is egocentric, the world revolves around them and they don't care how you feel or what you need. That doesn't even come into the picture for YEARS.

And kids are EXPENSIVE, we struggle sometimes to buy diapers and to get him clothes.

I HIGHLY recommend you start babysitting on a regular basis. It was the BEST birth control for me as a teen.