There was a time when I called T and left him a vm...and I knew it was going to go to vm, LOL....right before I was going in for a medical procedure...and asked him to leave me a vm on my phone that I could hear, with some words of reassurance.

He did just that....and afterwards, when I told him how much I appreciated that he gave me something I asked for....he said that he was glad that I asked...because asking for what I need is something I'm working on.

I felt embarrassed at the time of asking....but in retrospect, it was a big step for me.