I'm sorry, I overreacted. I really should be more considerate of our age differences and length of time in therapy. I can laugh about these things with my T, as we have discussed them six ways till Tuesday, but you have just started on this journey, and I should respect and honor that. That being said, you are a smart girl - you are struggling with transference issues; he gave you an opening - use it. As someone else said here tonite, it's all grist for the mill. This was not a pass, but you can acknowledge you are a big girl too. I don't know if you can relate to this, but I kinda play this fantasy in my head, my T would love me IF - if I lost weight, if I were cute, if my hair was nicer, if I smelled better, if I wore lipstick, if I wrote a book! A lot of ifs! These ifs aren't about T - he loves me NOW. He's my T. My family - they are the ones who trained me to think in ifs. If only I did this or that, then they would love me. But that love never came. So T is trying to train me out of thinking like that. Which is the whole point of "believing" he loves me and totally trusting him. Again, I apologize, and I hope this helps.