Hi WindInNewYork, well done for posting, I really admire your openness and honesty. Great too that you were able to talk to your mum.

I don't know the answers to your questions, but I think seeing a T about stuff that is bothering us to the point that it impacts on us in some way, is a really good idea.

Good luck in finding a T who you feel you can work with, let us know how you get on -i think showing what you have written to a T may be a good idea - Soup