I think the worse thing about this type of thing, and yes I've been there a zillion times in one way or another, isn't that someone hasn't replied or whatever, its that we abandon ourselfs. A lot of us grew up not every finding that internal reference and we repeat the abandoment we experienced. If you could find a quite place and reasure yourself that there are plenty of examples of your T's caring and if you could only take back what you are "giving away" at this moment then suddenly its like magic, you get that "filled" up feeling and T is back where he belongs safely and you are too and the relationship reappears inside of you.

Easier said then done I know, but sometimes I just neededthat reminder that I was actually making the situation worse by my own emotional abandoment.