Quote:
Originally Posted by Broken1900
I have been married for 12 years and just found out my husband has been calling, texting and i think Skyping a girl he met on line. Some times calling her up to 30 times a day and texting up to 100 times a day. He is in the military and is stationed in another state. I moved back home because he was being deployed so much and I was so lonely in just another state where i knew no one. I moved with him for 10 years and just wanted to reconnect with my family. Well now he is saying it is my fault because I left... he didn't care I was lonely or that our son had no relationship with my family. He wanted us there when he got leave.
So thats what I am asking is it cheating? I have been crying and throwing up over this for a week now. Can I ever trust him again?
|
Yes, it is cheating. Emotional cheating is just as damaging as physical cheating, actually, and with skype you can talk via web-cam if you have one. So there is that whole thing, too....
It is understandable that you went to stay with your family while he's deployed, that doesn't mean you left him. Being deployed is hard on everyone. Surely you could still go to where he is during his leave.
I feel similarly to you. My husband isn't deployed but he spends all day on skype with his friends. Even when I'm in the room talking to him he has his headphones on. Some of his friends are college age girls.... he doesn't seem to talk to them much from what I can tell but there is one girl in particular I wish would just disappear from his life.
He had a picture of her in her underware that was supposedly photoshopped to be funny, which he only told me about after it was deleted. I just struggle getting past that. And I know he was talking to her on his birthday.....
Anyway, I hate skype and I really feel for you. I'm so sorry this is happening. It isn't your fault!
