I have been told by T that I need to find a new safe place due to mine right now is not good.. My T did not give me any direction on safe place finding just that it could be real, it could be imaginary..
To not have triggers in my safe place as well (i.e. I get upset with my boyfriend a lot even though he gives me great comfort, to not put him in my safe place picture in my head)
T has also used the words comfort zone instead of safe place.
Other things T has told me, is not to use words to call my safe place that may trigger or I may twist (i.e. home even though home these days is good, i can twist home or feel i have no home-- home is not a good word)

My boyfriend and I were talking on this, I need direction with some things... I told my boyfriend, I was worried I would not be able to do this due to I don't know how, and that my safe place right now has always been my safe place since a child....

My boyfriend suggested something wonderful for me to do since i like to write.

I thought I may post this to help another if possible- I just spent 20 minutes with just writing on this and just that little time, has helped so much.

This of course if you have a safe place *that could be a safer/comfortable more positive safe place* ; I am not sure if it would help if you have no safe place.. ?Maybe a start?

1) Write on my safe place as of now (the less productive one); write what it provides for me, what I feel, why is it my safe place??

Example: I control what I do, where I do it, when, infront of who ever or alone, I feel free in a sense with no problems, troubles, hurt is being let go.

2) Take those feelings, the things that are provided in my "bad safe place"... write them down...

Ex: A place to feel in control, a place to feel peace/free in a sense, a place with no more hurt, no more confusion, a place with out a problems...

3) The Toughy one for me-- think of some where you could feel #2....
I first started little, a real place. Example: In Bed-- but more imaginary-- I am in bed, white covers, white pillows, my fluffy pillow is all the pillows ; warmth i feel, natural sun light. Comfy bed, laying there......
Then I started to write more about the natural sun light, example, natural sun light, pretty blue skies with minimal clouds (then I though wow- too much sun light) ... Trees, a forest like setting.. shade but still sun light comes through, I see plants, green lush plants, with natural dirt, the brown brings out the greens soo well. Trees more of them appear, tall leafy trees, trees that are well rooted... a river appears, river flowing-- slow but rapid in some spots-- all I hear is the river, some wind through the trees.... so on

Sorry got a little carried away

But I found that this really helped-- I just here on psych central posted some ptsd stuff--- i felt bad and so many emotions.. then i remembered the exercise that my boyfriend wanted me to do-- I did it-- I feel so much releaf

But I am not sure how to keep it for the times that I am upset out of the blue or escalating to upsetting... any suggestions on that would be great-- i thought about painting my safe place, cuz I like to paint and i think something that I do and have a visual may help me keep hold of this safe place...

but i thought i would share

Be well all!!