my feeling was when i read this op was that your t was trying to get you to ask about peoples feelings instead of assuming what they are.

i know sometimes i think i am picking up on "signals" about what someone is feeling and i have been wrong. sometimes i'm right, but the only way thatyou will really know is to ask. this is a critical tool in learning to relate to people.

i've been afraid of asking in the past because i was afraid of what the answer would be, or i am afraid of someones disapproval. i still struggle at times with this, but for me, now i will just force myself to sit with the disapproval and i find that my anxiety goes down. the more i do this, the better i get

its all a process. i figure youre making some great progress in therapy. good for you. its hard work.