In regards to porn, here's where I stand:

My husband looked at porn once since we have been together, and said he felt like he was cheating on me. So, for him, it's wrong. I know that if he looks at porn, something is wrong in our relationship, because it's a boundary for him.

I'm thankful that he feels that way, because in a previous relationship porn was a big issue. I was in a relationship for four years (we dated through high school and some college, so we were young) and he looked at porn often. I was insecure and immature and it hurt my feelings but I wasn't about to say anything. That was, until it started really effecting our sex life. He wasn't as interested in sex because he had just been watching porn an hour earlier, and he was no longer available for me sexually. We tried watching it together but it was just too much for me, I'm not at all that type of person. Anyways, we decided together (meaning I won the battle) that he would stop. Now, it wasn't his decision so much as he was just trying to please me, so as soon as I wasn't looking he was back at it, just now he had to keep it a secret. He was a volunteer firefighter, and one night when he left for a gas leak he asked me to get on his computer and google map the location, and boom. Porn. I spent the next hour looking at his history and realizing just how much he had been hiding from me, and it caused a huge fight.

If he is chosing porn over you, big issue. If he's lying about it, big issue. But if it's just something that he does once in a while, he's open with you about it, and it doesn't change your sex life, well, then maybe that's an insecurity problem on your part that you'll need to work on if you want to make the relationship healthy.

Best of luck. We're here for ya.