I am one who believes T's are there to dump on. They have heard everything. Nothing should shock them. So with my T, its like jumping in the cold pool. I just throw stuff out there without much lead up. Its sorta become a running joke now. I will sit down and its "guess what i did now" or "i really gotta tell you something big" and he grabs his pad, crosses his legs, prepares his pen and says "am i ready for this?" and i just blurt it out. the one time i felt too embarrassed to talk to him about something i really felt i needed to talk about, i typed it out and let him read it. if i felt like i had to find a way to bring it up, make an opening for these things i needed to talk about, it would never happen.