I can completely relate to what you're saying man. I was with a girl for three years. She's in college and I was when we met but due to a couple things I stopped going. She wanted me to start going out with her and I did on a few occasions. She really wanted me to go to Chicago with her to see her family which is 6 hours from here. I told her I'd go. I really didn't want to only because of anxiety. It tore her up when I told her I wasn't going to go. Which is understandable. One time she wanted me to go rafting with her friends but once again I didn't go because of anxiety. And eventually it all lead to our break up. Whenever I actually did go do things with her and push the anxiety aside it was great. I'm really hoping she'll give me another chance. I know it hurt her me not going out with her, and doing things normal boyfriends do. But what I'm trying to get at with this story is. If you love her and don't want to lose her. Just go for it man. Don't let your anxiety rule you. It is so hard I understand. But really. Just go with it. Go out with her and at least try. Who knows you may have fun. And she'll know you're trying. So yes. Absolutely go out with her. Every chance you get. I regret everything I've ever lost out on with her and I due to anxiety. Hope this helps. And good luck.