communication, encourage one another, emotional support, respect, these too are traits of a healthy relationship.
when one is lacking its like a domino effect.
reading your thread i notice you never metioned the word love.
i've been married for over 23 years, it has it's ups and downs, but we are still together for better or for worse.
so i think commitment, loyal, and love is what you struggle with.
something in your past makes you put up walls when it comes to relationships.
your good with your children, but when it comes to women, walls everywhere.
i hope i wasn't being too harsh, thanks for sharing (((hugs)))