My dad used to always tell me that love was a decision. Feelings come and go, but if you decide you want to love someone, you make it happen, even if you don't necessarily feel it all of the time. I think part of the beauty of spending a lifetime with someone is going through those cycles together, even when the sex is boring or someone is moody or you can't see eachother how you'd like. You can find a new job, but you can't get back ten years.