Not to go all negative on people, but answer the OP's question - therapeutically. Does he love me? Don't answer yes or no, or give the reasons she's not doing therapy "right" - we have done that a million times in the Romantic feelings forum, and this "logic" never works. Does he l0ve me - what would that mean for you, what difference would that make in your life? I like to look at therapy as finally being able to "play house" - I never could when I was a kid - I could NOT understand the rules! The moms I was closest to were all mean and yelling, the dads had belts - how was this a fun game? (School - I could play school, but the other kids quickly tired of it!) So me & T kinda play house - and you're right, elliemay, it DOES allow me to imagine now how great it would be to have this IRL. T's DO have some feelings for us, and these must be talked about in session also. But just because a person has feelings, doesn't mean they will act on them, or that it's anything more than a fleeting, temporary emotion. Feelings are not facts (as someone here said, that's the T's mantra!). Masimo, kudos to you for "not beating around the bush", as you put it, and asking your question directly; that was very hard and very brave. I hope some of the thoughts here help. You are truly not alone in this.