New term I learned here today; "gaslighting" http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ing-gaslighted

Your husband gaslighted you, sunrise. I'm glad you have learned how to recognize and keep that from happening in your new relationships (but I think you probably could be strong enough with your ex-husband since you were with your T? He's not a new relationship and equally as important/difficult as your husband to assert yourself yet you recognized the similarity of the old and this late-session situations!).