I'm beginning to see that what hurts most from T is what I most need to work on.

Example: "The group facilitator can't give you special treatment because there are just too many babies."

This hurt me because "baby" is a huge insult. How can T, whom I have loved and trusted for years, stoop to such a low blow?

But in thinking that, I've jumped over the real issue: why is "baby" such an insult for me? What do I have against being a baby? That's what we are working on now.