Well, I have a 'friend' who is a T and her husband has a very difficult life with her. I know from firsthand experience that being a client is much much better than having a friendship with a T. My friend has 'all the answers' and although she tries to apply them in her own personal life, it feels so often like she's trying to stuff it down our throats. Unlike the infinite patience a T can afford to have, a friendship requires much more.

I'm sure people look at my friend and her husband as having an ideal marriage and ideal life but it's nothing but that. It's very volatile and very unhappy.