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Originally Posted by SarahMichelle
My husband is a T. It cracks me up when ppl say their T could be in their family-- cuz for the family it isnt easy! I get jealous of his clients sometimes. He is sooo good at therapy, so patient and kind and compassionate with his clients. He works from home so i can sometimes hear his tone or him laughing. He isnt like that at home very often. He gets angry and bossy and gruff a lot and its like i cant do anything right. He would never be like that with his clients.
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Exactly! I've been jealous of my friend's clients. She says that she gives them 110% of her attention. I also know how patient and understanding and empathic she is with them. But with me and her husband, she can blow her top at any time.
I'll ask her why she can't apply her attitude to me that she does with her clients and she'll say that she doesn't want to have a 'therapeutic' relationship with me but rather a real and open and authentic relationship with me.
This is the reason that clients and therapists can usually not become friends after therapy is done. The client has an unrealistic understanding of who their T's really are. And it must feel weird for the T to 'come out' with their clients about their own needs and vulnerabilities. I'm sure most clients would not be able to handle that very well.