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Originally Posted by MASIMO
This is my story and I'm sticking with it. I love my T. My T loves me.
We are involved in a Therapeutic relationship, but we are also involved in an emotionally intimate relationship. These feelings sometimes complicates and intensifies things for both of us. However, we are both committed to continuing it. I'm not going to try to define it as it is totally unique to any other relationship. I'm not going to peg it in a hole.
The way he looks at me , the warmth of his hugs, his commitment to me, his attempt to protect me, the way I respond to him, his presence, his energy. It is love. Let it be.
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I honor your feelings and I'm happy that you feel this love. My questions to you aren't about challenging that but only a point of curiosity. What do you know about your T besides how he treats you in session? Does he share his dreams and hopes with you? Does he tell you his life history? Does he allow his less than positive emotions be seen? Do you know what his struggles are? Do you discuss the mundane - like ' how to choose a destination for vacation' or 'what are the favorite movies of each of you'? Do you know if he walks fast or slowly? Does he prefer coffee or tea? Is his house neat or messy? Is he interested in politics - do you share the same political persuasion? Is he athletic and swims a mile daily or is he a couch potato? What about religious or spiritual leanings? Do you know his? How does he manage his own frustrations? Does he like to be out in nature or does he prefer video games? And on and on...
Of course, none of that information is necessary to have when the relationship remains in the therapy office and what he provides for you there is awesome. I'm happy for you.