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Old Dec 08, 2011, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted by skysblue View Post
But my story wasn't finished at that time and T has been helping me finish the story. And I'm almost there, I think.

But this week, the story feels like it needs to be told again - more details, more linear, more rounded out.
I've got the Mindsight book on my brain, so the first thing I thought of when I read what you wrote was about how Siegel talks about helping his clients recall/construct/tell narratives of their lives. Sometimes we can't tell our narratives right off, or they're really lacking in memories or details, and he helps clients move the implicit and unspeakable/unrecallable and/or trauma memories into the explicit memory so they can tell their stories in a linear way that makes internal sense, with good and bad, details, reflections, etc.

So what you wrote sounds really positive to me. Like progress. Go tell your story yet again. Being able to tell the narrative of our life signifies we have come to terms with it and it does not have mastery over us. We can speak our truth straight out and not cower from the memories. And it can be so healing to have someone listen to us.

I also think when we feel compelled to do something, as you do to tell your story again right now, that it is wise to follow the impulse. I think that is the impulse to greater healing. I think something inside us knows what we need to heal and pushes us toward that.
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Thanks for this!
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