Re previous husband: You would be surprised what you can do! I spoke with mine on the phone once like ten years later, to share some good news I had, and he started yakking on and on, and I thought to myself, "omg, I used to listen to this? Really? what was I thinking?! so glad I don't have to do this anymore!" And I interrupted him and terminated the conversation. But I still have nightmares that he (or the other mr hankster, or ms hankster) have come back into my life somehow, and I realize again it's a mistake, and I have to break up with them all over again. I'm just glad there aren't more of them lurking in the shadows!