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Originally Posted by 3rdTimesTheCharm
I often think that a person's true character really emerges in times when they are confronted with their own negative behavior. Your own behavior is the hardest thing in the world to not be defensive about, and to take full responsibility for-- it's so tempting to make excuses, minimize, blame circumstances outside your control, etc.
So you know what this says about who your T is. Pretty cool 
Anne |
Thank you, Anne. I think he's a pretty great guy myself.
A good role model for me in that regard. Sometimes when I have a challenging situation coming up and I know I might get defensive and I want to remain receptive and open, I think to myself "how would T handle this?" It has really helped sometimes. Even once in therapy I was dreading bringing up a certain topic because it seemed conflictual to me and I thought I would probably botch this interaction with T. So I tried to be T as I broached the topic to T. It was kind of surreal to be T with T, LOL.