Your description of events does sound peculiar to me.
Have you frequently asked your hub for money before, and perhaps he was assuming that your relief from the emotions would be shopping? That's the only reason I can think of that makes some sense. It isn't helpful to you or healthy for your marriage to go through, regardless of reasoning.

You should try talking with hub about the event. Explain that you are confused by him giving you money. Your anxiety and high tension aren't relieved by $$. You need an open ear and reassurring words instead. If your anxiety and tension were relieved by shopping, you can tell him that too. However, needing to shop wasn't the problem. The problem was ____. You need ____ to feel more secure and loved.

Can he help you get through tough times , like those, by not enabling you (by giving you money, drinks, drugs, etc.). Rather, give you a hug and some reassurring words to fall back on in those tough times.

Best wishes to you both. It isn't an easy road. But, it's a lot easier when we stick together and support one another throughout.