Haven't heard from older brother in months he decided to call tonight to let me know he was going in the AM for kidney cancer surgery. He is a lot older than I am so we have never been that close He is the one brother I really look up to just thought I would get this out there for my own sanity. Thanks! I am a little torn should I go see him or just send a card? Guess I will just wait and see how the surgery go's. Thanks again for letting me vent it sure does help when the tears fall.