My best friend of 15 years became a T recently. Her life is not 100% perfect, and she has her share of unresolved issues that she is working on, but that has never affected the way she treats people in her regular life. She's not bossy or abusive neither does she takes her issues on other people. I see that whatever she learned as a psychology student and as a T she utilizes in her regular life. She is honestly investing time and effort into making her life and relationships healthy.

She's always been a great person and a great friend.

So I guess I can say that there are plenty of Ts who are as great in their regular life as they are with their clients. I kind of think that's the way it's supposed to be. If you are an awesome T but a lousy spouse you are not authentic.