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Originally Posted by likewater
I just make up imaginary scenarios for my Ts. They always have very nice, fulfilled, ideal lives. I take little details i do know and fill in
the rest. My current one lives in a beautiful decorated ultra chic kinda asian decorated house with her daughter and husband. They
all get along and support each other very well. I've decided she also has an herb garden out back where she also grows organic
vegetables . One day she will write a best selling novel or autobiography.
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When I read this, I wondered if our fantasies about T and their "ideal lives" (I have them too!) are a projection of our own wishes about our OWN lives? I've never really thought about it before...but I bet if we each wrote out how we imagined our T's "ideal life", each one would be different. Where does that difference come from?
I'm tired and anxious and can't think hard right now, but I think later, I will write in my journal about how I see T's ideal life, and then apply it to myself. Are those the things I want in life? And then if they are, it's like a starting point in finding the direction I need to go.
Actually, one example just popped into my head. I know my T has a lot of friends, and I know he has some very close friends. Sometimes I imagine what his relationships with those people are like, and I imagine them being supportive, open, honest, loving. I imagine him having this web of people who share his life with him. And that really *is* part of my ideal, and something I strive for. So maybe I am taking my own wishes and applying them to how I imagine T.
Definitely something to think about later. If I survive my therapy session with extra-T.
