I believe what you are talking about is a symptom of a deeper, underlying problem. The need to be right (one up) or a high conflict, controlling nature etc... is the outward behavioral manifestation of a person who never developed healthy coping strategies to certain powerful stressors early in life. Abuse, trauma, abandonment etc... in childhood will have a unique damaging effect and will elicit a different self-preserving response for each child depending on their own genetic mental makeup. How they carry this into their adult lives will determine their level of success regarding interpersonal relationships. Unfortunately, there is no easy way for society to "deal" with this problem other than to educate people so they can better avoid or insulate themselves from its toxicity. Personality disordered people are not motivated by a desire for peace. They thrive on manipulation, conflict, chaos, idealization and devaluation. Their "temper" is merely one of the many poison arrows in their quiver.