No. I could not handle it if my husband told me he loved someone else but was staying with me or that he loved me too. I would feel used. I could not handle it at all. It would tear me to pieces and I seriously think I would just break down. Also I would not be able to handle thinking of that other woman at all.

The whole "i love you but not in love with you" I know what that is. It's like you love your best friend but not in love with them. Or you love your kids but not in love with them. In love is like romantic, the other is not.

If I was cheated on I think I would go through a breakdown. If there was any reconciliation he would have to agree to therapy both couples therapy and self-therapy, and to remove all contact from his mistress, and to show major improvements toward the relationship and toward me as well. Betrayal is not something I get over easily.