Hi guys,

So a quick background, we have been in a relationship for about 5 months. I am 24 and she is 21.

I have been in other relationships before but I have never been in love with the other girls in the past. I love my girlfriend to death and she means the world to me. Her being my first true love, I think I became over protective and made a few bad moves that have started a fight between us. I need some advice please.

Essentially, I did three things which started this. 1) She had told me she was still friends with her ex and they talk over the phone from time to time. I didn't mind that but after a few weeks, I saw that his name of the phone kept changing. So I discussed it with my gf and since then there is a feeling in her heart that I don't trust her. Which is not the case, rather I just needed an answer. Her answer made perfect sense and we moved on. 2) I am not a fan of smoking. So I when we started dating, she promised she would stop smoking. About 2 months later, she started smoking again and I asked her she had promised not to smoke. This started an endless argument as I would like her to stop eventually. She told me when I tell her I can't do something, she feels less independent. Maybe it was the way I told her not to smoke or something, but she has been really mad at me since then. 3) She is currently traveling so I cam here to see her as a surprise. She originally had asked me to come but I told her I couldn't come. So when I decided to surprise her, it came out totally wrong and she thought I was stepping on her space. Later that day, my buddies ended up making me drink some strange drink and I ended up getting really drunk. I was rude to her friends and then she sent me to my room.

The next day, she said she didn't want to see me and needed space. After about 7 days, I sent her a text message stating that I need to explain my side of the story. So we had coffee and I explained it all and I apologized for my stupid behaviour. She forgave me but said she doesn't want a relationship for now and doesn't want to discuss anything until we are back home. This trip ends in 5 days. I am not allowed to be in contact with her, rather she is going to be in contact with me when we are back home.

I really love this girl but I have made some stupid mistakes. Can you please give some advice as to how I can fix this. I am really sorry and I know her and I are meant to be together. We had the most amazing 3 months, everything just started when she left for her trip.


Thanks.