You need to by strong ... one day at a time. She is trying to do the same thing. This must be very hard on her too. I suspect she needs some time to herslf right now and, as hard as it is, we all need to respect her needs as well. Give her the benefit of the doubt, she will be home when she is ready. If that never happens, then we must move into the area of accepting her wishes. She alone is responsible for the decisions she must make in her life. We cannot assume that responsibility for her. The best to you as you struggle through this.