Hi, agusta, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).
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Originally Posted by agusta
I really love this girl but I have made some stupid mistakes. Can you please give some advice as to how I can fix this. I am really sorry and I know her and I are meant to be together. We had the most amazing 3 months, everything just started when she left for her trip.
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You cannot "fix" how she feels or what she wants; she has her own view of the relationship and what she wants. At the moment she does not want to have anything to do with you. If I were you, I would go home now, work on getting yourself and your own life in order.
Your buddies cannot "make" you drink a "strange" drink, and/or they don't sound like the kind of buddies I would like to have; you need to start taking responsibility for your actions and quit worrying so much about your girlfriend and her actions; they are her problem. If you do not want to be around someone who smokes, you have to tell her that and then go your own way and/or you have to decide you want to be with her more than you feel bad about the smoking; but you cannot run her life, only your own. You get to choose your own actions only, not someone else's.
Making "promises" about your behavior in the future when you do not appear to be in control of your actions in the present or to know yourself very well, and keep making similar mistakes will only get you in trouble in the future when your, "I'm sorry" does not pan out. Better to make no promises, apologize once (you did) and then act responsibly, think about how you wish to behave before acting instead of behaving and then apologizing.
Like I said, I would go home and work on figuring out my life and how I wanted to proceed, what work I wanted to do and where my life was headed as a whole rather than just sit around for five days waiting on someone else. With or without this woman in your life you have to live your own life.