As I have posted on here before, I have been really torn between continuing with therapy or taking a break. Christmas is coming, my ex H, gave me a small amount of money towards the kids presents etc. and I found, myself in a dliemma of buying something modest for them or taking a break from my sessions.

As I have been feeling more upbeat I decided to e-mail T and say I was going to take a break for at least the next 3 weeks.

I did that and was feeling OKish about it, then heard from my kids that yesterday they and my ex H had to climb over the fence to get in my house as he had left my house keys with a friend by accident (both me and my ex work and therefore when I am at work he picks them up from school and brings them home). This friend is someone who has been in prison in the past, my ex H hadn't seen him for about 2 years as the last time the friend punched him and the friend is also the person who made obscene phonecalls to me in the past.

Hearing that from my kids really wobbled me - I am trying to be cool about it, wondering whether I am over-reacting (I know my ex H would say I am), but I am really uncomfortable about my ex having so little respect for my safety / security. He is someone who is reckless and I spent 17 years living in what was for me a really scarey environment.

I want to raise it with with him, but I would really appreciate someone elses perspective as I said, I am not sure whether I am making mountains out of molehills and no doubt he will accuse me of being over anxious.

Usually I may talk to T about this but in view of the cancelled sessions, I don't feel it is reasonable to e-mail him. Soup