I know I would prefer that he didn't - I am just trying to protect the kids. We put on brave faces for them to make the split is as painless as possible for them - also I don't want them to feel that this is not their home and that they can't come here when I am not here - how can I explain to them that daddy can't have a key. I so hate this situation, but guess it is as it is and need to find a way of doing it differently.

Thanks Soup