Yes, thanks that is a great article.
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Many children, in desperation, learn to care prematurely for themselves...at the expense of trust in others, emotional growth and self-acceptance. Unfortunately, try as they might, such children can never absolutely ensure their survival, simply because it is never absolutely within their control.
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*sigh*... yep I know this all too well. took care of self a lot and thus leaning on others now(when I really should be) is so so difficult.
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Survivors with PTSD may avoid any intimate connection, often resulting in feelings of detachment or estrangement from others.
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so alone... yes....
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they may have constricted feelings. They may be unable to identify and express a wide range of emotions, particularly the anger, fear and sadness so closely associated with the original traumatic events.
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THIS! just WHAT is it that I feel about this trauma or that abuse..
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Traumatic events that are human in origin seem to have more severe after-effects than natural disasters. Hurtful and frightening as it is to be raped by a stranger, or to be in the path of a natural disaster, the creation of a personal disaster by a loved one is vastly more bewildering and overwhelming.
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I truly believe in this statement... as I've been at the hands of both types of trauma and the longest lasting ones are the ones committed by "loved" ones.
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The younger the victim, the more vulnerable he is. The more developmental skills and life experiences uncontaminated by trauma a child has, the more he has to draw on in the face of trauma. When life goes well, and children are loved and protected, each day is like a deposit in a savings account. Neglect, repeated physical abuse or sexual assault...or other life-threatening events, make huge withdrawals on the account. The more a child has in the bank when the trauma occurs, the better the prognosis for a quick recovery. Small children who are repeatedly traumatized usually have few deposits and easily become emotionally bankrupt.
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yes, this makes such perfect sense.... *sigh*.... blech... no wonder some of us have to work so hard with such a defecit to fill in.....
gawd-- Im beginning to HATE where I come from- my past....you know what?-- I had a dream once that as a child I was in a race-- all the kids had tennis shoes on but me-- I was running the race in those flimsy flip-flops.
... such a peek at the notion that I've been at a disadvantage compared to a lot of people....
I hope that some of us can have a chance to run "the race" with tennis shoes too someday...
thanks for posting this granite... hope I didn't go on too long!
fins