MUE, I think you are making it harder on yourself posing the question (title) so literally. You want to help your T's site. That's wonderful but I think you are too close to the situation to make it work and wording the question as you have here for us, makes us feel the same?

I would ask something about the urge to please/help T? How could that be used/viewed to best help myself.

"I often feel the desire to please or help my therapist. How can I turn that around and use that feeling to help myself?"