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Old Dec 11, 2011, 09:46 AM
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((((((Notdamooma))))))) for yesterday, and know today is a new day. Good for you for speaking up!! It is good to set boundaries and if we need space, to let others know as a part of taking care of ourselves. She may have heard something different than what you were saying but actions will speak louder. I know with my niece when I took care of for some time, I had to say something similar. I pointed out that there were times where she wanted time to herself and this was only natural. I was only asking for the same; it had nothing to do with her only some time to rest, just as she need some personal space to do her own thing. We would have time to do things together and am always here, but also know there times we needed to have of our own. Did she want me involved in everything she did? Just as I know she did not want to do everything I was doing. She liked this idea better hearing I was not trying to shut her out. I don't know if this might help, but being worried about being shut out was a real concern for my niece. See if you can find out what is bothering her about what you said so you can address it.

I hope today goes much better. Hang in there.
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Thanks for this!
Notdamooma, Penny T. StDuhnam