[quote=retro_chic;2143053].... I also have no idea what he sees in me and why anyone would want to voluntarily spend time with me. I'm pretty sure I am going to screw everything up and I just want to run away. [quote]

1st- I think you need to tackle your insecurity issue before you consider getting intimate. You are devaluing yourself by telling yourself you don't know what he sees in you. You shouldn't be with someone because they validate or invalidate your self-worth.

2nd- Just because you work in an environment where everyone is married, it doesn't mean that you need to rush into intimacy with this guy. Wait. Feel it out, not literally. Get to know this guy. If this is the first time you've experienced dating, I'd say it do it right. You don't want to be 30 looking back on this and thinking, "I should have waited".

Case in point, when I was in high school I never dated. People made fun of me because I was a virgin (of everything). I waited to have sex, wasn't intimate, never tried drugs or alcohol and never went to parties that kids threw when their parents were "away". I focused on my education, getting scholarships to college, graduating at the top of my class. I was too involved with myself and had no interest in doing anything other than preparing myself for after high school. I met my first boyfriend when I was in college and waited almost one year before getting intimate. I'm glad I waited because he turned out to be the wrong person for me. So all in all, don't rush. You never know how things will turn out but I would recommend keeping the ball in your court. You have the upper hand and if he presses you to be intimate, there's a problem. Ignore the people at your work, they are married and that shouldn't influence your decision to get intimate right away.