Don't tell me to go to the personality partners' forum. Been there. Now I'm asking you folks, or perhaps I should say "us." Because I'm one of you, my long-term wife is not, and now and then she goes nuts about my, well, what can I say? My "schizoidness?" And no, she won't take "sickness" or "mental problem" for an answer. So I looked at some resources and found out I just had to tough it out: Stay with her. Be with her. Listen to her. Yadayadayada.

Anyone have any great ideas? Anyone been through this routine before? I'm perfectly happy living inside my head and she says it makes her feel like a roommate. But I love her (at least I think I do, though I'm not sure I know what that means) and I'm perfectly willing to do what it takes to make her happy. Except I can't even fake what she's asking for. I don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling inside while I'm with her. All I DO feel (with anyone at all) is that I'd like to get back to my computer. I mean, that's not something I particularly like to admit, but it's the truth.

Even when I try to tough it out it always winds up with her screaming that I don't understand and yelling at me to go back to the computer. Ummm, what am I supposed to understand? If someone would provide me with a reasonably literate written description of what to feel and what to understand, I'd very much appreciate it.

This has happened many times with T. T will tell me something and I hear the words and I think I understand but then circumstances and happenings a month or two later will make it clear to me that I didn't know what T meant. It always has to do with some feelings or emotions. I'd really love to leave this SPD business behind but I understand that that's not on the cards.

Take care.