It can be scary to take what we want form folks even if they offer it to us.

I had some of the struggles that you have. Through calling my T I learned how to start the conversation and what paramiters worked for both of us regarding calls between session. It is about what they will do but is also about what you want. T had boundaries in place AND I have needs. Sometimes it requires 2 mins sometimes more. Of course you can't make someone be available to you I am saying that it is important to think of what you want too AND allow youself to get it.

Also over a long time I have learned that I can get attention from T without being in a crises by saying I just wanted to touch base with you are we still meeting at XYZ time and day. sometimes I'd ask T a basic question then say that really I am just checking in.