I guess I get a bit of both from my husband. There are times he will tune me out completely. Other times he won't even bother to tune me out but will simply tell me he is not interested (granted, that is usually during an argumentative moment), and then there are the rare times when he will hash things out with me.

As for the phone, he tells me he is not a phone person, yet I have watched and heard him have lengthy converstations with his friends. Short, curt and distracted phone conversations are what he gives me. Fortunately I am not all that keen on a phone myself otherwise it would hurt me terribly.