This is exactly it for me too...I immediately start to think what did I do wrong...they are annoyed with me, are going to leave me, they must not love me anymore...so thank you for reminding me to think that most of the time the relationship has not changed...and to remember that is difficult for me to think this way...it can be done...I have to let that part of me have more control!! thank you for sharing your story about the intensity between you and T and then having it shift...I like how you are able to sort out some of the reasons-that is very hard for me to do right now...I clump it up-blame myself more often than not, and get desperate and angry and upset...thank God for my T to help me with some of this stuff!!!

Thanks for the support