Why should your father or brother do anything? The fact that your brother voluntarily did the dishes is amazing--reward that behavior! But your dad? If he's been waited on all his life & thinks that's fair, he won't change without sufficient motivation. You might have to get him to trade chores. You'll cook if he'll vacuum, for example. Worth a try?

The exhaustion, for me, is the hardest part of depression to deal with. No meds have helped a bit with that in my case.

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