net506,

I'm a Muslim too and I have experienced various sexual difficulties. I have high sex drive for one thing and as you have mentioned in your post sex before marriage is not allowed. Also, I sometimes feel like I might be bisexual. Attractive women (I'm a girl) make me feel uncomfortable sometimes if you know what I mean.

You said you're not after a solution because there isn't one. You may be right. I don't think there's a solution that would be devoid of pain and suffering. Only one thing makes me capable of coping: my faith. I don't know how religious you are. I'm fairly religious myself and for me there is immense pleasure in doing something for the sole intention of pleasing God. So that's what I do. I fight temptations and try to avoid situations that would turn me on.

Anyway, it all comes down to yourself and your priorities. Feel free to pm me if you need to talk