Right, unhappyguy. It's never worked for me either. There's an expression, " Fake it till you make it," that is (I think) more pop than actual psychology--though I've heard serious therapists actually recommend it. Seems to me it's more to help those people around us who don't want to hear it any more.

I agree with Styron's observation, SophiaG. It's hopelessness that's the biggest killer around here. If I think there's going to be help for me maybe next year, I can hold on with some degree of fortitude. But when that maybe drifts more towards maybe never? Oou... *thinkin' maybe I'm outta here*