In some areas of my life I do this, it masks the anxiety of rejection. To be honest I never asigned that defect to myself until recently. To me I have to be the one that fills any uncomfortable gaps because...... Well IKm not sure really and often end up saying things I don't really feel or believe. I've begun to talk to T about this and wondered what not being a people pleaser would be like, feel like, look like, to be fair the thought of not trying to be so feels me with more anxiety, I hear my mothers critical voice in my head even as I think about this, feeling like its my job to listen to everyone, to be the solver, to be that perfect listening ear when at times I quite honest couldn't careless, which is proberbly normal but was made into a crime growing up. What about others? What's your take on people pleasing?