Anne, yes I'm similar to you. This wkend I made myself sit back and allow a certain situation unravel on its own, it was hard! My chest hurt at first but the results were much better.

Muffin, I have no problem saying no that's why I didn't assoicate people pleasing with me, but the having to sit and look as if what the person is saying si the most important thing I've ever heard is more how it plays out for me. I'm afraid to let myself be disinterested. I guess because that's the relationship I grew up with.