When I read your question, SophiaG. I assumed you meant pretending to be fine with the t or others who you should be telling (significant other, yourself!) For me, with my t, I pretend to be fine with certain emotions/situations because I am not ready to deal with these emotions, I think. I believe that we both know I am not being honest, but she is allowing me to admit the cause of depression when I am able to do so.

If you are talking about work or in other social situations, I would believe it to be selfish at times if we expose ourselves and make others uncomfortable. I definitely keep it quiet at work-I like my job!

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